As I sit here at the computer, the next door neighbors are preparing for a funeral, and probably not getting any sleep. We came home earlier tonight after going out to eat, to find an ambulance with lights flashing parked outside our house. It was too wide to enter the alleyway that runs alongside our house, and which leads to said neighbor’s house, so the ambulance parked on the main street in front of our’s.
The in-laws quickly got the information that a son of the family of said house had died, though how they didn’t find out. The ambulance actually left, without taking the body, for first the police had to come and check something, perhaps for signs of foul play. They eventually came, in a plain Honda compact car, but all wearing the same blue uniform. Later, an ambulance which may have been the same one as before returned, presumably to pick up the body. And now, a few hours later, as I sit at this computer in the room of our house that is closest to theirs, only a couple of meters away really, I can hear the coming and goings of presumably relatives who live close by.
We don’t know how the son died. Supposedly he had “mental problems” though who knows what that really means. Could have been a suicide, could have been something related to the heat of the last two days. Everyone speculating. They think the mother must be away on a trip, that somehow her absence is significant in all this. At least no one has seen her recently.
No one had seen the son recently either, in fact Naoko says she hadn’t seen him since we’ve been here (one and a half years). They only hear stuff, like the business about the “mental problems” or that the son hated his father.
And I heard this tonight, from Naoko, who heard it from her mother, who heard it from the now-dead son’s mother: when the son found out that his next-door neighbors had had a new baby and that the father was a white foreigner, he had remarked that mixed white-Japanese parents produce the cutest children. This is the kind of stuff that travels back and forth between neighbors around here. For her part, the son’s mother, one of the few people in this neighborhood who actually acknowledges my existence with greetings and what-not, gave us 10,000 yen (roughly $80 USD) when Kaika was born. I feel strangely tied to these neighbors, bound by proximity, and fourth-hand information.
Naoko went to bed early tonight, for she says tomorrow someone will probably come around to ask the family to help out with arrangements, make tea and cakes for the visitors who will surely come. This is a customary thing done here.
The son was said to have been 39, which if true means he was just a year older than I.

Thank you for sharing this. A beautifully told snapshot of your life in your community.
-J